The Truth About Simps

Apparently, the term “simp” is misogynistic because it “demonises” men who do nice things for women and implies that being nice to women is bad.

I disagree completely. In fact, I’d argue that “simp” is the least misogynistic word in the English language—and that calling simps out ultimately benefits women, not harms them.

As someone who considers himself a simp in recovery, allow me to explain.

I recently wrote a self-help book for men titled From Simp to Strength: How to Reclaim Your Power in a World That Wants You Weak. I chose that title carefully, knowing that by using the word simp, I was taking a huge risk in terms of censorship.

I was willing to take that risk because language matters. If we can’t use the right words, how can we accurately describe the problem? Just as I’m willing to call a spade a spade, I’m willing to call a simp a simp. Censorship be damned.

Contrary to modern, progressive thinking, a simp isn’t “nice.” He doesn’t help women out of kindness. He does it because he wants something in return—usually sex—but lacks the honesty and courage to say so.

A simp is not a good man. He’s weak, dishonest, cowardly, and manipulative. He’s a parasite, not a protector. And I say that as someone who still catches glimpses of his own simpish tendencies from time to time.

My book teaches men to be the opposite of that: courageous, self-reliant, and honest in their dealings with women.

Whereas a simp performs favours expecting a reward—and becomes bitter when it doesn’t come—a strong man acts out of choice, not need. He doesn’t do “nice” things; he does kind things.

Niceness comes from weakness and the hope of getting something in return. Kindness comes from strength, self-mastery, and a sense of responsibility toward oneself and society.

When a firefighter rescues a woman from a burning building, do you think he’s expecting a date afterward? Of course not. He’s doing his job because he’d rather see people alive than dead.

Women know this instinctively. Every woman has met a “nice guy” who turned out not to be nice at all. They’ve learned to be wary of men who seem overly sweet and accommodating. Most women dislike simps just as much as other men do.

So yes—I’ll keep using the word simp, even if it offends people or risks getting me censored.

Calling out simpish behaviour and encouraging men to become stronger, braver, and more honest benefits everyone.